Monday, September 25, 2017

My Story

  "I survived because the fire in me burns brighter than the fire around me"...it is one of the sayings that I read several times a day. However, I should say, I survive because of the people that God places in our lives that have surrounded our family with His love. I've heard about the body of Christ since I was young and I know I have experienced it but never really recognized it like I have in the past couple years. Looking back, I see the body of Christ showing up in my family in powerful ways. I recognize the many times that people surrounded and encouraged us . Hindsight is 20/20!
    Our family has lived in Charlotte NC, San Antonio, TX, Cleveland , OH, and Augusta, GA. I'm from a town outside of Augusta called Waynesboro. It is the bird-dog capital of the world (I just thought I would add that in case you were wondering)and has absolutely wonderful people! It is a small town and has issues because people have issues and we are sinners.  However the way they love and care for people is something to be treasured. The encouragement and prayer that people from my hometown share have kept my family going at times when we thought we would not survive.  I moved from there to Augusta for my husband's medical school training and then onto Cleveland, OH, San Antonio, TX, Charlotte, NC, and now back to Macon Georgia. My husband and I met in college at Mercer University in Macon and it is nice and surprising to be back! A lot has changed since 1998...Mercer has changed, Macon has changed, and we have changed both physically and spiritually.
    One of our pastors talks about looking at life through a God-centered lense. I love looking back now and seeing how God's hand was all over our story. Our story is His story and it speaks of our sanctification journey.  He continues to bring us closer to Him each day. His provision ahead of our need has been amazing, but I am not going to sugarcoat it and say that life has not hurt. Multiple sclerosis changed our lives, having children changed our lives (especially the twins), and medical training (all stages) has created challenge after challenge where we have once again been able to see God’s faithfulness to us. Life is hard! However, if I look at my life through a God-centered lense, I see His hand intervening in every phase of the journey. 
     In Augusta, we were part of a great church and established friendships that will last a lifetime.  I was able to teach and work with children which is what I love to do. 
    In Cleveland, we had our precious children (and boy did our lives change then). We had our son first and then two years later we had our twins.  We lived close to my husband's family which was a huge blessing. We had family and friends that surrounded and hoped us, a wonderful Bible study, residency spouses club (my husband was in his medical residency), a great church and small group, and made friendships that I hope will last forever!
     Then we moved to San Antonio Texas. Shock and surprise is putting it mildly for sure... The military had us put a list of places where we might end up and San Antonio was not one of those places.  I'm so grateful that God's plans are not man's plans and that His ways are higher than ours ways! In Deuteronomy 31:8, the Bible tells us that God will personally go ahead of us and will not fail nor abandon us." We saw this verse tenfold in San Antonio. Wayside Chapel became our family as did my children's preschool, and wonderful friends God brought into our lives. I had friends watch my kiddos for countless doctor’s appointments. We went to Thanksgiving and Easter with a good friends and family. I had the opportunity to attend an amazing bible study with other women that spurred me on in my faith. My husband was deployed to Afghanistan and once again we saw God's provision at work. We had family from Georgia and Ohio fly to Texas to be with us. My sister-in-law from California flew all the way to Texas to be with us. Thankfully my husband came back safely.  That Christmas I decided to make a lasagna because my husband loves lasagna. I had finished making it and put it in the refrigerator (very impressed with myself by the way) when I dropped the whole darn thing on the floor putting it in the refrigerator. The glass shattered and eggs, ricotta cheese, marinara sauce, and noodles ran down the refrigerator. I honestly didn't know whether to laugh or cry and I'm sure that I thought or said a few things that won't be repeated. My oldest son helped me clean up the glass and wipe down the refrigerator. I kept my twins contained so they would not step on the glass. I texted my husband because I was so discouraged about the lasagna and he told me how much he loved grilled cheese. Once again, thank you, Lord!  I ended up putting that on Facebook and a few hours later our doorbell rang and a lasagna was sitting on our front porch. My children still remember that story and love telling people how an angel brought us lasagna because we still don't know who it was... an angel indeed! We have countless stories of God's provision in Texas and his love for us through other people. We loved our time in San Antonio and had many amazing experiences to remember!
    After Texas, we moved to Charlotte, North Carolina and we saw God's hand protect us in ways that we had not recognized before! We moved about two weeks later I developed vertigo from a lesion in my brain vortex.  My husband was back in training and we knew this would be the most intense year that we had experienced to date. We have three busy and growing children... two kindergartners and one third grader. I realized that I could not drive and I had never felt so discouraged and hopeless. How would I get them to school? How would I get to church or my children to their activities? I didn't want them to suffer because of this! We knew the training would only be one year but I lay awake at night wondering how I was going to find people to help me in such a short period of time!  It seemed impossible! However I'm beginning to learn that our God shines in the  seemingly impossible! I had a sweet friend that grew up in the same hometown and only lived a few miles from me. Her family became my family and I felt like they adopted us. She helped me drive my kids to activities and went to many of my doctor’s appointments. We also went to church together every Wednesday night and on Sundays when my husband was at work. She introduced me another wonderful family that took my oldest son to his activities and helped me from everything to unloading the dishwasher and doing laundry! We lived in a great neighborhood and many of the children road on the bus to the exact same school! The children would play soccer and other games until the bus came. Our neighbors surrounded us and we are forever thankful for our body of Christ in the cul-de-sac and our time in Charlotte. It was just one year but it was a life-changing year. Our family experienced some difficult times but we saw God's provision even more clearly in our lives. Once again, there was no denying his provision and his presence!
     Now it seems that life is now full circle! My husband and I began in Macon, GA and moved to Augusta, GA, Cleveland, OH, San Antonio, TX, Charlotte, NC and now back to Macon, GA.  It is definitely very different from college days! As I said before we are very different and my goodness we have three kids now! However, God is still the same God, providing for us and renewing our strength day by day. I pray that my story gives all glory and honor to God. My prayer for you is that in your story you experience and recognize His provision and His love today!


   
 "Now to Him who is able to do more than we ask or imagine according to his power at work within us, to Him be the glory forever and ever!"  Ephesians 3:20-21

Sunday, September 3, 2017

Trusting God's Heart

My heart was broken yesterday. My oldest son came home from school, and he just seemed angry. He was very short with others and his responses to me and seemed very touchy about every little thing. Later, he asked my husband if mommy was ever going to get better. He told my husband that some kids were making fun of him because his mom was in a wheelchair. My husband is wonderful and tried to explain the best he could to an almost 10-year-old that I might never get better. He also reminded our son that we don't know what the other kids might be going through; many times we hurt people because we are hurting as well... maybe they are having problems at home with mom or dad or even at school. We've dealt with this before in every city or town we have lived in. However, he understands more as he gets older and seeing that his mom is "different" is harder than before.
     The mama bear in me wants to get really angry. I'm mad that he is hurting, that we are all hurting. I want to get up out of my chair and walk next to him. I want to reach out and hug him from two legs that are standing and reach out to him with arms that are not shaking. I'm doing everything I can to get stronger. But, as my husband told him, I might not walk again and that is really hard to swallow. That really hurts. 
    This is a crazy mixed up world. It is a sinful world. Bad things happen and there is so much suffering, and I do not understand. However, I know, and I pray you know, that hope is not found in this world. In Psalms 31:24 the Bible tells us to "be strong and courageous all you who put your hope in the Lord." I try to read these psalms with my children and remind them that our God loves us unconditionally. I try to always tell them thank you for talking to us. I remind them that mom and dad love them more than they know. My husband and I don't want them to ever feel that they can't come to us because it might hurt mom's feelings. I'm not going to lie: it does hurt. Knowing that my wheelchair causes problems for him stings. But the bad days definitely do not outweigh the good that is coming.  Do you and I know that our God can do the impossible? I had a doctor tell me that after a relapse it was pretty much impossible for recovery after seven years. It has been 10. I'm hoping that He does heal me physically. I KNOW He can...but if He does not I can TRUST Him! My prayer for you is that you trust Him in your life even when you cannot see! He's got you...believe and trust Him!

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, but in all ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5-6

"Even If" by Mercy Me 
"Unstoppable God" by Elevation Worship


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